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This week: Happy March! Today we’re talking about mind-reading. Not the magical kind, the exhausting, overthinking kind. How much of your time and energy goes toward guessing what other people think about you? And how do you help it? Let’s get into it!

How much of your life do you spend trying to read other people’s minds?

These all count:

Most of us do this daily. It feels productive (and protective), but it’s incredibly draining.

Every time you try to decode someone’s thoughts, you’re running a full mental simulation in the background. You’re filling in blanks with stories. You’re reacting to things that may not even be real.

That’s a lot of energy to spend on guesswork.

Mind-reading doesn’t just stress you out, it can quietly harm your relationships too. Why?

When you don’t have information, your brain fills gaps. And it tends to fill it with the most dramatic version possible:

Our creative minds are really good at taking one small piece of information and spinning it into a full story, and we react to the story, not the truth.

Imagine a friend told you, “I know you secretly hate me.”

You’d probably feel confused or hurt, because in their attempt to protect themselves, they’ve erased all the time, care, and effort you’ve put into the relationship.

When we assume how someone feels instead of asking them, we deny them the chance to speak for themselves.

When you try to control how someone sees you, or predict how they’ll respond so you can manage it in advance, you’re subtly trying to steer their internal world.

But other people get to have their own thoughts, feelings, and perceptions, and you don’t need to (and can’t) manage all of them.

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Now, here’s how to quit playing mind-reading games!

You probably won’t stop overnight, but here’s how you can get better at catching yourself.

The next time you spiral into “They must think…” or “Everyone probably noticed…”, pause.

Say: “I’m mind-reading right now.”

That tiny bit of distance helps more than you think.

Envision yourself telling the other person what you’re assuming.

“I’ve been worried you secretly don’t like me.”

How would they realistically respond?

Chances are, they’d be confused. Maybe even hurt that you assumed the worst.

Sometimes that imagined conversation reveals how flimsy the original assumption was.

Instead of:

“They’re definitely judging me”

Try:

You don’t have to jump to blind confidence, just aim for neutral reality.

Mind-reading feels like control, but most of the time it’s just anxiety in disguise.

You don’t need to:

You’re allowed to let other people have their inner worlds and keep your energy for your own. That alone can free up a ton of mental space.

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If this one hit a little too close to home, just know you’re not alone - we all do it! The goal isn’t to never assume again, but to catch yourself sooner and choose something steadier.

Until next Sunday,

Flocus Team