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This week: It’s all about self-trust: what it really means, why it’s important to practice, and how to get better at it.

Self-trust simplifies so many of life’s biggest challenges: setting boundaries, letting go, and pursuing your goals and dreams.

Which is precisely why it’s so important to cultivate. But that’s also easier said than done.

But even knowing all that, self-trust has a tricky side. Let's take a look.

You want to do big, impactful things with your life. But you also want to experience it.

Self-trust is key for that balance. It’s how you know when to work, when to play, and when to rest. (And when to switch between modes.)

In other words, trusting yourself also means doing “unproductive” / indulgent things occasionally.

Like getting your fave takeaway meal after an especially tough day.

While there’s a fine line between experiencing and overindulging, these “feel-good” choices make life worth living, adding color, texture, and spontaneity to our days.

But even when they bring us real joy, they also come with extra emotional baggage, like:

Feelings like these might be valid (to an extent), but they’re not always helpful.

Knowing when to loosen your grip so you can get out there, make memories, and actually enjoy your life is a superpower.

It’s also the antidote to an even bigger self-trust problem: the snowball. Scroll on for the scoop!

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Now, back to trusting yourself!

You make hundreds of choices like our takeaway example every day.

All those decisions add up. And so does the emotional baggage that comes with them.

If you’re agonizing over the small stuff, just imagine how exhausted you’ll feel over the big stuff: choosing a major, moving to a new city.

The more choices on your plate (and the bigger they are), plus the more emotional baggage attached, the greater your risk of snowballing into burnout or a freeze response.

Not to mention that some decision paths permanently close after a certain point, adding yet more anxiety, weight, and uncertainty to the pile.

But how can you get better at trusting yourself with small things so you can tackle life’s biggest obstacles with more confidence? Read on to find out.

Set aside a day to give yourself whatever feels right.

Ask yourself what you’d like to do, or how you want to feel. Then, listen out for the answers that come naturally and make it happen.

From outfits to activities to mindsets, the possibilities are endless, there are no wrong answers.

(btw, “following your heart” might mean “doing absolutely nothing at all”, or doing less than you normally would, and that’s perfectly okay.)

Whatever emotions pop up along the way (good, bad, neutral), greet them like friends who are just passing through. Then get back to following your heart, just for today.

The part of you that criticizes your every move is looking out for your survival. That’s the whole reason it exists.

Unfortunately, it also operates in overdrive a lot of the time.

Instead of swatting those self-critical thoughts away like pests, keep this in mind, and try validating yourself with compassion and understanding.

It might feel a little corny at first, but give it a proper try. You might learn something about how your body and brain respond to stress.

Whatever your spiritual beliefs, it can be helpful to visualize a version of you in another timeline or universe that took the other fork in the road.

Believing that alternative decision was still made, somewhere out in the cosmos, can relieve some of the guilt that comes with all the “what if”s of life.

If it helps, you can even bring it to life in art or writing. Whatever you create doesn’t have to be “good” — just flow with it.

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Self-trust isn't something you nail once and move on from. It's something you come back to, especially when life gets noisy or the decisions get bigger.

It’s hard to do, but the more you practice it in the small moments, the steadier it feels when it really counts. The end result is a full, enjoyable life that nurtures your mind, body, and spirit. That’s what it’s all about!

Until next Sunday,

Flocus Team